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Dating Sites?

If you have any comments, stories, or reccomendations/warnings of sites please mention them in comments.

*Please note, that this does not mean that I am looking to join any dating sites (I have old memberships of two - one from 2002/3! - that I haven't looked at for years), nor does it mean that I'm actually considering getting into a relationship at present (I'm way too busy for anything serious at present I fear, plus need to sort myself out so my head is in the right place). Plus, from my experience, dating sites don't really cater for people of a more alternative persuasion. I've hardly ever seen someone on a site whose been alt! Plus I do kinda like dating people I know and meet in person, it allows more growing and getting-to-know time (which I find important in relationships - I've rarely gone out with someone I didn't really know at all).

Have You Ever/Currently Use A Dating Website?

Thought about it, but not so far
Did. No Longer Do
Yes, I currently do

If yes, or did, which site(s) did you use?


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Oct. 4th, 2007 11:43 pm (UTC)
Have you never come across Gothicmatch?
Oct. 4th, 2007 11:53 pm (UTC)
No. But then I'm not sure if I'd really term myself a goth these days. If there was more of an Alt site (which covered goth, rock, indie, etc) I'd probably be more inclined to use it.

Surprisingly few of my girlfriends have actually been goths. Most liked the music in addition to other things, but few did the whole dressing up/make-up goth thing.

In fact, one night stands or casual acquaintances aside, I don't think any of my actual girlfriends (ie - longer than 3 months) have ever been what I would call a goth.
Oct. 5th, 2007 06:04 am (UTC)
You've got a good point there with the 'Alt' dating site as similarly I wouldn't call myself a goth i'm just not normal :P
Looks like there is a hole in the market for a site like that.
Oct. 5th, 2007 02:40 am (UTC)
Actually, you've made an excellent point about alt dating sites being needed. I look like a short Barbie, all blonde hair, boobs and pout, but I'm very much an arty sci fi geek with not-so-typical liberal leanings. I just kept attracting the wrong sort of chaps who didn't have a clue what I was about.

I had a terrible time on dating sites. At one point I had 400 men trying to talk to me in the space of a week. It was overwhelming and actually quite unpleasant. Too many "mainstream" chaps my girlfriends and I met through NZ and UK sites were treating it like a supermarket:

1) false advertising (misleading personality profiles)
2) heap products tried in vast quantities (eg, those who were desperate)
3) breaking something means nothing - there are plenty more where that came from...

... and so on. Eh, so ranty today! Friends first, then see what develops = so sensible that few people can bear to do it, it seems.
Oct. 5th, 2007 11:15 am (UTC)
Absolutely agree on the Alt-not-goth thing.
I doubt *I'd* qualify as a goth or maybe never did... to some.
Someone should start an Alt dating site then. I reckon you'd turn up and meet a lot of your friends anyway!!! *LOL*
Friends first is best!

The "normal" types seem to have such a predatory behaviour from what I've seen (and as a bloke, I've probably seen very little) and what I've found is that so-called regular types have the ability to tar everyone with the same brush. One of the probs I had with the now-ex, for example, is that her work colleague/friends were raising all sorts of warning flags about my going out to nightclubs and coming back late. Err... in their experience nightclub = meat-market. In my case, a club where my friend is a DJ, who might not play a set until 0100 or later, plus 1 1/2hrs travel home... Alt/goth types are far better behaved by comparison, it seems!!

Oct. 5th, 2007 02:42 am (UTC)
I've used Match.com - which was shit. The telegraph dating site was quite good. But the best one I've used is plentyoffish.com - which is completely free! You have to wade through some eejits (don't you on all sites?) but its still quite good.

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Oct. 5th, 2007 08:26 am (UTC)
I think you've just highlighted some of my own feelings why "Gothic" Dating Sites are just not for me.

Goth doesn't have to mean completely f**king weird and insane folks! :p
Oct. 5th, 2007 11:17 am (UTC)
Amen to that.
Now get back in your crypt and clean those blood stains off!
Oct. 5th, 2007 08:32 am (UTC)
They're all bisexual though! Why is that? You'd swear, looking at those things that there is not one straight goth in the world ;p

"Marilyn Manson, if you've heard of him"...erm, my grandma has heard of Marilyn Mansin (though she read a feature in the Radio Times and thinks Dita is better off without him, Dita is apparantly "a lovely looking girl")

Weird...I wouldn't touch gothic dating sites with a barge pole.
Oct. 5th, 2007 09:16 am (UTC)
Plus he couldn't actually spell Marilyn Manson right in his original advert :p
Oct. 5th, 2007 11:01 am (UTC)
...Oh, I have GOT to join this site. How can I refuse this sort of comedy?

Oct. 5th, 2007 06:59 am (UTC)
I have not, but friends recommend the Guardian dating site and mysinglefriend.com
Oct. 5th, 2007 08:28 am (UTC)
If I were ever to use a personal ads section I'd use the Private Eye ones, namely because it means they presumably read and like Private Eye - which is a bit of a must for me!

Oct. 5th, 2007 09:17 am (UTC)
That suggests I should advertise in SFX Magazine or a gaming mag (shudders).
Oct. 5th, 2007 09:25 am (UTC)
Ah...that's a problem!
Oct. 5th, 2007 11:24 am (UTC)
Lol. Yes, it is.
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Oct. 5th, 2007 11:24 am (UTC)
er, no thanks.

I've been to plenty of Larp events over the last 20 years to know not to use them as a dating agency.

Crazy isn't the only reputation many Larp girls have.
Oct. 5th, 2007 12:16 pm (UTC)
Try OK Cupid

I use OK Cupid.

It's free, fun, the match percentage rating system seems to work rather well (the more questions you answer, the more accurate the results - I answered about 800-odd questions IIRC, some people do all 2000+) and apart from romantic encounters I've also formed a few really good friendships as well from OKC.

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